The beauty of the gathering pop-up rule

How do you make your gathering, be it personal or professional, especially unique and impactful?

Today we return to my gathering guru, Priya Parker, for inspiration to share the concept of the pop-up rule. Here goes:

We all know that kids need structure to function well. Turns out, adults benefit from and appreciate structure a whole lot, too.

The concept of the pop-up rule is that in order to fully drop in to a gathering, intentional “rules” can be supportive. As Priya shares, “rules-based gatherings, controlling as they might seem, are actually bringing new freedom and openness to our gatherings.”

For today’s example, I’m going to turn to a non-workplace gathering. For the past few years, I’ve hosted several front-yard concerts. While the primary purpose is to enjoy the tunes of a local musician, my secondary purpose is to bring together people I adore to build community. With this secondary purpose in mind, while introducing the band at the most recent concert, I offered this pop-up rule:

It is my sincere wish that you leave tonight having made a new friend. Don’t be shy, ask for their number so that you might hang out post-concert.

Much to my delight, I heard several people over the course of the evening say something to the effect of, “let me get your number, otherwise Tes will be ‘mad’ at me.”

Pop-up rule success!

Anther pop-up rule to consider, especially at non-workplace gatherings, is to prohibit the sharing of ‘day jobs.’ Of course 'banning' cell phone use is another great one to instill presence and a level of comfortability, knowing the gathering will not be shared on social media. With this rule, you could consider having attendees place phones in a basket upon arrival.

Community wisdom request:

What pop-up rule have you incorporated into a gathering you’ve hosted? How’d it go?

OR what’s a pop-up rule you're contemplating for a future gathering? Share in the comments.

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